We All Need Three Things...
We all need to feel safe, belong to a group, and feel like we matter to that group. Recently, our students' faith in feeling safe took a hit. We will work to earn that back, and we will work just as hard at making sure they feel like they are a part of a group and that they matter... because they do. Every one of them. Hold your loved ones a little closer today. Tell your kids that you love them, you are proud of them, and that you hear them. It may go a long way to say, "I'm sorry I don't have all the answers," because we don't.
You Know... Now Do It!
Have you ever thought to yourself, "I thought of that [idea, or song, or blog, or other content or product] a long time ago! Why didn't I [post, record, build, write, etc...] it first?" The only difference between you and that successful guru that you might listen to on a podcast or a YouTube channel is they have been "doing" it for a while. You know all the same information, and can probably share it better, or tell better stories, but you haven't been doing it... so nobody knows who you are. Everyone knows THAT guy... he's been doing it for (fill in a number here) years. Get to the other side of the knowing/doing gap RIGHT NOW! Start doing it. Just start. What is the best way to become really good at something? Or to become an expert in an area? Start sharing what you know, while you learn more, and share more, and before you know it, you will become the guru. But you never will if you don't start TODAY. And be consistent. Do it again tomorrow, or the next day, or once a week- just keep moving, and doing, and creating, and learning, and improving... never give up.
I am who you think I am
In psychology, the false consensus effect, also known as consensus bias, is a pervasive cognitive bias that causes people to “see their own behavioral choices and judgments as relatively common and appropriate to existing circumstances”
When we meet somebody new, we assume they think and behave as we do. Some people do, of course, but not everybody. Our attitudes, thoughts, and actions are usually shaped by our family, friends, acquaintances, and life experience, and since everybody has different life experiences and people in their lives, behaviors, thoughts, and attitudes are different from ours. This bias goes a bit further, as you can imagine. Our brains are very powerful supercomputers. When we imagine somebody is dishonest or lacks integrity, our brain tries to affirm our original thought that the person is dishonest and lacks integrity. We continue to look for signals to confirm the bias that was initially thought to be true, whether the bias is true or not. Unfortunately, we hold onto those biases quite firmly, rather than questioning the basis of our belief. Remember, input leads to belief, which leads to attitudes, which leads to actions and then results. If we begin a situation with improper information, we have to be open-minded to listening to other points of view, and listening to possible inconsistencies to our original biases. Think of someone or something that you assumed was true. Now think of somebody you know who disagrees with your "truth." Be open minded, and listen. You may find that you are hanging onto a baseless bias. Or maybe not. At least challenge why you believe what you believe. Always.
 Ross, Lee; Greene, David; House, Pamela (May 1977). "The 'false consensus effect': An egocentric bias in social perception and attribution processes". Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. 13 (3): 279–301. doi:10.1016/0022-1031(77)90049-X.
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